The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever—And What to Do About It (Hardcover)

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The current model of parental discipline is as outdated as a rotary phone.

Why don't our kids do what we want them to do? Parents often take the blame for misbehavior, but this obscures a broader trend: in our modern, highly connected age, children have less self-control than ever. About half of the current generation of children will develop a mood or behavioral disorder or a substance addiction by age eighteen. Contemporary kids need to learn independence and responsibility, yet our old ideas of punishments and rewards are preventing this from happening.

To stem this growing crisis of self-regulation, journalist and parenting expert Katherine Reynolds Lewis articulates what she calls The Apprenticeship Model, a new theory of discipline that centers on learning the art of self-control. Blending new scientific research and powerful individual stories of change, Lewis shows that, if we trust our children to face consequences, they will learn to adapt and moderate their own behavior. She watches as chaotic homes become peaceful, bewildered teachers see progress, and her own family grows and evolves in light of these new ideas. You'll recognize your own family in Lewis's sensitive, realistic stories, and you'll find a path to making everyone in your home more capable, kinder, and happier--including yourself.

About the Author

Katherine Reynolds Lewis is an award-winning independent journalist based in the Washington, DC, area who regularly writes for The Atlantic, Fortune, USA Today's magazine group, the Washington Post, and Working Mother magazine. Lewis's byline has also appeared in Bloomberg Businessweek, MSN Money, Money, Mother Jones, the New York Times, Parade, Slate, and the Washington Post Magazine. Her work has won awards from the Society of American Business Editors and Writers, the Society of Professional Journalists, and the Chicago Headline Club. She has received fellowships from the Carey Institute for Global Good, the National Press Foundation, the Poynter Institute, and the University of Maryland's Casey Journalism Center. Residencies include Le Moulin à Nef, Ragdale, and the Virginia Center for the Creative Arts. Her media appearances include CNN, NPR, Bloomberg television and radio, and HuffPost Live, as well as numerous radio programs nationally and internationally. In 2008, Lewis created a website on working moms for, which she ran until 2014, attracting millions of readers to the site, its blog, and a weekly newsletter. She is a certified parent educator with the Parent Encouragement Program in Kensington, Maryland.

Praise For…

"Katherine Lewis has written a smart, compassionate book for the
21st century parent. Forget the carrot-and-stick approach to redirecting
children's' behavior. We can help our kids develop their inner motivation for
behaving well - while simultaneously forging lasting family bonds - by
following the wise guidance in Bad Behavior."—Daniel H. Pink, New York Times bestselling author of When and Drive

"At a time when families are feeling pressed for time and stressed by
the demands of modern living, Katherine Reynolds Lewis makes an urgent case for
connection, communication and giving children space to develop their own
capability. With compelling stories and research, Lewis's book is a welcome
guide through the land mines of modern parenting."—Brigid Schulte, award-winning journalist, director of The Better Life Lab at New America, and author of the New York Times bestseller Overwhelmed

"Katherine Reynolds Lewis, armed with the latest behavioral science
research and her eye-opening journalistic inquiry, introduces a new discipline
model.... An absolute must-read for anyone raising or teaching 'difficult'
children, and insightful to anyone eager to teach kids how to regulate their
own behavior and ultimately thrive in society on their own."—Julie Lythcott-Haims, New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult and Real American

"The Good News About Bad Behavior is the book parents and
teachers need in order to understand the link between empathy and genuine,
human connection to positive behavioral outcomes. Lewis explains how children's
lack of self-regulation and resilience is at the root of so many modern
parenting dilemmas and gives practical, useful advice for how to do better for
our kids. The Good News About Bad Behavior is an important
addition to my parenting and education library."—Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure

"If you hate disciplining your kids with time-outs and punishments,
you're in for a treat. Instead of trying to control children, this timely book
shows how you can teach them to control themselves."—Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B with Sheryl Sandberg

"With a parent's compassion and a journalist's rigor, she offers advice from the trenches while providing a realistic roadmap towards a better family life. Blending solid science and highly readable storytelling, The Good News About Bad Behavior is sure to become a parent must-read."—Judith Warner, New York Times-bestselling author of Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety and We've Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication

"A book that is both incredibly fascinating AND insanely helpful? That's
what you're holding in your hands. A great book! It is both reassuring and
fantastic to know that there's a way out of bad behavior, and a very rational
reason for why it exists in the first place!"—Lenore Skenazy, president of Let Grow and author of Free-Range Kids

Product Details
ISBN: 9781610398381
ISBN-10: 1610398386
Publisher: PublicAffairs
Publication Date: April 17th, 2018
Pages: 288
Language: English

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