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1.
To be honest, when I first began reading RESCUING PATTY HEARST
I was
afraid it was going to be one of those self-absorbed memoirs that
pop up all too often. I was ready for the predictably tragic childhood
and the triumphant ending. But this book isn't that at all. Certainly
the childhood portrayed in the pages is horrific in many ways, but
you describe it in a way that doesn't beg for our sympathy, and
the ending is real life, not air-brushed. Did you write with this
in mind? How do you think of your book in relation to other memoirs
out there?
I tried very hard to write an honest account of some very difficult
years when my mother's schizophrenia went untreated. I come from
a family and a culture of people that don't allow for much wallowing
in self-pity, so I suppose that's why there's not much in the book.
I wrote this book for the usual reasons writers write memoirs:
to figure out a difficult time and order it somehow that makes sense.
The process has been of tremendous use to me and seems to be of
use to others-which I suppose makes it more than a simple exercise
in narcissism.
2.
Did you ever discover whether any other members of your mother's
family exhibited signs of schizophrenia?
No. My mother's family comes from a remote fishing village that
is very closed to discussion of such matters. Since schizophrenia
is generally considered to be genetic, in all likelihood there was
probably someone who also had it somewhere down the line, but I
haven't been privvy to such information.
3.
One of the most painful, frustrating parts of this book came
later in the story, when you describe how difficult it was for you
and your family to get help for your mom. Do you know if it's any
easier these days to get help for a psychotic person? Or is the
law often still the biggest roadblock?
These well-intentioned but poorly written and executed laws still
exist in many states. The way many read is that someone who is psychotic
who is to be hospitalized against their will must prove to be a
danger to themselves or others. What happens is that this is interpreted
in a way that someone whose family requests intervention is told
that it is not enough for their psychotic loved one to merely threaten
violence, that the impulse must be acted upon in a suicidal or homicidal
fashion before even basic medical treatment can begin. (i.e. "it's
not enough for your Mama to wave a knife at you, she's gotta cut
flesh.")
So many people are left to the ravages of untreated psychosis and
become at risk for all sort of abuse and crime against them, while
others (sometimes the lucky ones) finally act on a violent impulse
and get treatment. It's a sorry state of affairs when there's not
some eloquent legislation that both protects patient rights and
yet recognizes when a loved one or family member is trying to care
for a desperately ill person.
4.
I couldn't help wanting your school nurse (or someone) to realize
that something was terribly wrong and to step up to the plate. Does
the child (or parent) in you ever look back and wonder where the
hell all the other adults were and why they didn't help you?
Frankly, there were other adults who were kind. And-this is hard
for nice people to deal with-no one could have intervened to our
satisfaction or who could have made a real positive difference given
the laws requiring danger to oneself or others from the ill family
member. Think on this: the laws still make it easier to remove a
child or children from a household like mine (which would have been
very upsetting to me or my sister) than to remove and treat my mother
(who was the problem) and leave the rest of the family intact and
functional. As my eight-year-old would say, "What's up with
that?"
5. Does
your mom know about the book? Has she seen it? If so, what did she
say?
When I told my mother about the book (and she is still very ill)
I was very nervous, but she said "I think that's good. People
need to know how bad this is, this schizophrenia." I thought,
OK-I have my father's sister's and mother's permission to tell this
story. I don't think I could have published it without their love
and support. After all, it is nice to go home for the holidays.
6.
How are your dad and sister? (I understand if that's too personal
of a question; it's just that one gets very fond of them. I guess
I'm hoping for a miniature epilogue here to see what everyone in
the book is up to!)
My father is wonderful. He's retired and married to a lovely woman
and is very happy. My sister is a successful professional. My mother
is as stable as she is likely to ever be and is in a good facility.
We are very close as a family and the book has been a real proving
ground in that regard. It has taken us all a long time to believe
that life could dish out more than just misery and suffering. But,
lo and behold, right now we're all in good places. We have some
hard-won happy endings.
7.
When did you know you wanted to be a writer? How did that come
about?
Oh, I thought I would write some poetry in college and then got
stuck in a prose writing class that I couldn't get out of because
I needed the credit. I got a B and was so mad that two of my classmates
dared me to take another class, so I did, by then I had a full-blown
addiction.
8.
What kinds of responses have you received from the people who've
read
RESCUING PATTY HEARST?
The responses from people have been immensely kind and generous.
Bookclubs are coming out of the woodwork, it seems. It's really
wonderful! We were so isolated as a family with this illness and
for many years we were ashamed of it. At every reading and on my
website, people write and tell me their
stories. It is deeply moving to know that so many others have suffered
as we did. It's like retroactively having the community of support
that I didn't have as a kid.
9.
Do you still worry about "going crazy" yourself? Do
you worry about your son developing schizophrenia later?
No. I used to worry about it all the time, but time and writing
has helped settle that particular fear. As far as my son is concerned,
it would break my heart to see him inherit this disease, but I also
know that there are new drugs every day and that he would have two
helluva supporters in his Mama and Daddy. We definitely know the
ropes. The fear of him developing schizophrenia isn't strong, though.
10.
What are you working on now?
I've got my fingers to two pies at the moment. I'm working on a
Western (a big stretch for a gal who hadn't been past Missouri until
her book tour!) but that's been on hold for a couple of months since
I heard a voice (the kind fiction writers hear--not the kind my
mother hears) and I've been working on a second novel that is still
too tender a bud to say much more other than I am having far too
much fun.
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